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Friday, 19 Sep 2003
augh... (deep sigh) hmm.... you know, sometimes life is just so dang crazy, huh? well, it is for me right now... it's because of change, i guess. no, i'm lying... it's because of love. (see, i don't feel comfortable being extremely open in an online journal- in music, that's another story) but um, yeah... love is crazy. but... i ain't mad it, i guess. it's always fuel for another song. j/k... i mean, it is... but at the same time, who really wants to go thru all the craziness that love brings ya?
Gosh, I've done a lot of talking with my girlfriends (esp. w/ Sugar ;p ) and these are the things that we came up with.
*p.s. I'm not saying that these are original ideas. I'm just saying that this is what we learned.
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#1. Love is pain (When you decide to love someone, you open yourself to the possibility of getting hurt. Point blank.)
#2. Deal with things when they happen. (People can be afraid of the hurt that love can bring and and that fear can make people imagine the worst. Instead of getting absorbed in your worries, we learned to just get over it. When things happen, that's the time when you should deal with it. cuz we sed so! j/k)
#3. Never call your boyfriend/girlfriend's voicemail and leave a message when you're on 3 way talking with your girl. (You might not hang up completely and some of your conversation might get recorded. (5 minutes depending on the phone. Trust me. We know.) LOL
#4. Quote from MJA: "I can be with anyone else but I choose to be with him (What does that mean? Sounds simple... but the basic premise is... If you and your boyfriend/girlfriend broke up... you could one day find someone else out there... someone who could treat you good... love you the way you want to be loved... have a lot of the qualities that you're looking for in a mate... -- //i mean, it could/would be hard, but it's possible//... BUT... because in your heart, you feel that this is the best person for you... you choose to be with the one you're with instead// of searching to find greener pastures)
#5. Jealousy is not love (Okay, I got this from a book. 2 actually. One in my Health book and the other from "How To Not Sweat the Small Things in Love" /I think that's what it's called/. Some of the things we noted: Use jealousy for something positive. For example... You're feeling jealous because __________. Instead of dwelling on the negative feeling, use that emotion to remind yourself to show your mate how much you appreciate them. AND... sometimes.... people get jealous because they make their significant other the biggest part of their life and they feel scared when the other person makes time for other friends and other activities. Instead of being jealous, balance your life as well. When you give your energy to friends and things that you're passionate about, you'll start to understand and appreciate the special time you get to spend together)
#6. Love is strange (Got that from a song on the Dirty Dancing Soundtrack. "Oh, Sylvia." "Yes, Mickey?")
#7. Love hurts (I think that's from an 80's Rock love song. I don't know... it just came to me. haha. Oh no. I can't get it out of my head now)
#8. Are people meant to be with one person for the rest of their life? (Okay, that's not something we've learned... It's actually a question... but... it's a big question we had... so it made it on here)
#9. Communication. Communication. Communication. (Listen to what the other person is saying and don't just imagine what you want to hear. If another person can be honest with their feelings, respect that. Also, say how you feel. Even if it means you might end up feeling silly or sounding silly, at least you guys can figure out what's going on and deal with it)
#10. Try. (As long as you're not in a physically, emotionally, or verbally abusive relationship, most relationships that are mostly good but just have some bumps along the way... are worth trying for. Whether it ends up working out or not, at least you can say you tried your best)
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So, yeah, those are the things that we figured out to be true to us. All things mentioned above are just for entertainment purposes only and if you decide to believe these things for yourself- that's on you. That's my disclaimer.
Okee... dokee... just writing all that makes me not wanna think about love. In fact, it really just makes me sleepy.
But, I can't leave you on that note. I'd feel bad.
Let me put some of my new favorites.
Celebrity: Beyonce'
Album: Dangerously In Love [Beyonce']
Celebrity Crush: Orlando Bloom
Store: Pac Sun!!!
Reality Show: Boy Meets Boy [It's over now but ohmygosh... when it was on... I was so into it!] I also like Queer Eye for the Straight Guy and I love Will and Grace. Hmm...
Favorite VMA moment: honestly, I don't have one
Movie: Hmm... Lately... Finding Nemo. American Wedding (It surprised me. I didn't think I was going to think it was funny but I laughed loud a bunch of times.)
New Passion: Learning about Health. (It's funny. When I'm having conversations with my girlfriend, I'll bring up Health and I have to apologize. It's just so interesting to me. I think I'm gonna get an A in that class.)
Okay, well, I'm really tired. It's hella late and I should be in bed right now... so hopefully this journal gives you something extra to read when you're trying to search the web for some new stuff. I love doing that. Reading people's blogs. Ya'll are so interesting. Take care and good night. I'll write in ya later.
~ sharyn
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